Monday, January 21, 2013

Tired of the Struggles?



Today, my husband started a new job.  I sure do miss him here at the house. (We both agree that I actually may get some work done now:)  I am praying he is blessed and finds joy in the work he is asked to do and the people he must work with....  Looking back over the last few weeks, I can see some blessings from his lay off.  He was able to restore his body and soul, and I was able to connect and enjoy him on a whole new level.  It was like a much needed vacation without the stress of packing and going somewhere...knowing that the vacation must end in a week and you have to face work on Monday morning.  He ate well, slept well, read a few books for leisure, worked out, spent time with family and mentally worked through his thoughts on unlocking his passion and creating a vision for the future.  These things don't happen on their own.  You must consciously and actively participate in forward movement. So, if you don't have "time off" from work right now you must schedule time for yourself in the evening or on weekends to "restore your soul", or you may find yourself in a state of depression or frustration concerning the "place" you are in this life! While you are at it...schedule time with your partner and time with your children....they all deserve the best you that you can offer!

I have taken for granted how difficult it is to "find a job" in this current economy.  21 years ago, I accepted a teaching job on a Navajo Indian Reservation right after college. This was a great experience for me and aided in landing a second job when I returned to my hometown.  After teaching for 9 years I decided to work my, hobby, home business as my career.  I never went back to education full-time.  Now, 17 years of working my own business and nearly 12 years of that time with no other employment, my work mindset, as well as the work "field", has changed.  I have taken jobs to off-set hard times but never for long.  Today it seems much more difficult to attend college, let alone get a "secure" job to support and maintain living above "poverty level."  My husband  has worked hard labor jobs for more than 20 years.  Whether he had work or not often depended on other people, weather or the economy.  He also had to work more hours and physically harder just to make ends meet. I am so proud of him for never giving up.  The job he started today is close to home, better pay, better benefits and out of the elements:)  He is still looking for a career with passion, purpose and vision for his future, but I am thankful that God takes care of him, and us, on the journey to finding "peace" in this world.

I am also very thankful for friends who are willing to be the link to helping others find a job.  It is much easier to get a job with referrals from friends and a great reference.  My husband filled out countless applications, but the bottom line is: unless you have an "in"....it's much more difficult to secure a good job. So, if you know of work and those without...match them up.  It's a great gift to be a part in the success of others!

I keep writing about "the struggle" and often hear others state they are tired of it...but the truth is: "Struggle" is a part of the journey of this life.  We can't be free from it, but we can live free "in" it.  I believe that's what scripture means when it says to be in the the world but not of it, or when it says in this world you will find tribulation, but in Jesus you will find peace.  What I am trying to say to you is this: Let's not put so much emphasis or give so much power to "the struggle"...instead let's look for the blessings and exercise the power of the spirit within us to overcome our obstacles. (the power of the spirit is given to you when you have a personal relationship with Jesus)  Look for joy in your family, create joy in your job, search for joy in the pleasures of life around you. All the while, ask God for wisdom when you are walking through your not so desirable present circumstances!  Not to make light of your hurt...but I promise...someone has been where you are right now.  You are not alone...days only last 24 hours and weeks and months keep passing us by....if you are not careful you will look back with more regrets than peace.  Seek out those who have been where you are and learn from their journey.  Then...pay it forward.

Our family is dealing with a few struggles of it's own...some of which could really ruin any one's day, but I can honestly say just when I feel I have past the hurdle of one challenge...another appears.  I am beginning to expect it with anticipation for what blessing is on the other side when I conquer it!  You can have victory in this life and CAN enjoy it along the way.  Don't give up looking for a new career or even finding a temporary job.  Don't give up praying for a miracle in health or finances.  Don't lose hope that you will find love or restore a broken marriage.  Don't allow your personal struggles of the day, week, month or year rob you of living a life full of peace...those struggles do not control you unless you allow them to! Life full of peace is not a life void of problems....peace is found when you overcome the struggle and enjoy the journey!

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Ever Wonder Why You're Not Happy?


Are you tired of the struggle?  I am.  Each day we ask ourselves some of these questions:  Will it ever change?  Will we ever have enough money to pay the bills, let alone travel, drive dependable cars, or even enjoy the finer things in life?  Do I have to work at this job I hate for the rest of my life?  Will my family ever be normal?  Can the fighting just stop?  Do the lies have to continue?  Is marriage really this hard?  Will the drama at work ever end?  Do I have to be plagued with this illness until it kills me?  

I can, personally, own a few of those questions, and I bet you can think of more.  The only one I can answer honestly, and for certain, is the the first one.  "Yes, I am tired of the struggle!" And, I am willing to bet that you are too.  So, how do we live life without the struggle?  Is it possible to live a life full of joy, abundant in love, more than enough money, healthy, happy and carefree?

Turning on the news or picking up the paper immediately gives me the impression that I cannot live in THIS world with unconditional love, joy, security and financial peace that I am in search of.... In fact, the media hopes I will thrive on the drama and feed off of it...hopefully, to the point at which I even create more of it....just look at some of the "reality t.v", talk shows or sitcoms created for your entertainment.   I can try to ignore the news, but I still can't run from struggle.  It finds me.  It comes into my marriage, it follows the kids home from school, the pets create it, relatives and friends find ways to bring me the ones they have.  The house, all it's upkeep and the cost of living are forever adding to my hardshipAll the things that consume my emotions, time and energy in a negative way quickly cause depression, apathy, lack of motivation and a downright unhappy attitude about life.  I don't want to live that wayIn all my connections with people, I have yet to sit down with one person who says, "I want to live an unhappy life."  I have heard people say they deserve to be unhappy...and honestly, that is a lie from the pit of hell...they truly may deserve the consequences of the life they are living....but, God is merciful, and I am not judge...ok...that's a blog for another day....

I see joy in the world, and I know others who experience success and peace in many facets of life.  I read scripture, and I believe that God has created abundance for us to enjoy.  In return He desires us to give Him praise.  I think it IS just that easy!  We simply have the choice to live abundant and free or in lack and bondage. We have a choice to be selfish or thankful. We have a choice to drain the life out of people with our negativity or give and receive love.

My husband took a look through our wedding scrapbook (we have only been married 10 months) and he said, "I was reminded how happy we were, and I always want to live like that."  Do you  sometimes wonder what changed or went wrong in your life that caused you to lose your joy?  The truth is, we allow struggle to take the place of  joy.  We move over and let the problems have a seat. We give time and energy to what is negative instead of focusing on what is good.  When we are plagued with the troubles of life...here is what scripture tells us...

"Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things." Philippians 4:8

Our world constantly changes.  Bad things happen to good people all of the time.  No one is exempt from hardships.  They come in different sizes, packages and to different degrees.  But, regardless of the packaging, struggle finds us all from time to time. The difference in the the happy people and the unhappy people is choice. Choose love, choose joy, choose peace whenever possible....and HOPE will get you through the rough days. It really is possible to enjoy the journey of life even if you don't like some of the days that go along with it! Give away as much love as you can...and you will find people who will return more to you than you can possibly receive!